This is a question that I had to ask my friend Michelle. She was going on and on one day while we were having lunch about Jeff. Jeff is a guy she had been dating for a couple of months and recently he had broken things off with her. It seemed like that would be okay with her, because at the end of their time dating, she was complaining about him a lot. It was obvious she was not as happy with him as she was when they first met.
Still, she was going on and on about him and I got the impression that what she was trying to say was that ... she wanted him back.
"Do you really want that?" I had to ask.
"Why?" she looked kind of puzzled at my question.
"Because it seems like you were not really that into him until AFTER you broke up. Could it be that you want him back because he broke up with you, but not because he is really the "guy" for you?" I asked her.
"Hmm... maybe you are right" she responded.
The reason why I bring up this brief part of the conversation that we had that day, is because a lot of women do the same thing as Michelle. They get dumped and suddenly, they want the guy back.
But, if they were to go back in time right before they were dumped and they were honest with themselves, they were thinking about ending the relationship.
The reason why they are wanting him back is because they feel like they should have been the ones to end the relationship, not him.
If that is the way that you feel, then maybe you should just be thankful that it is over, even if he was the one who ended things
Still, she was going on and on about him and I got the impression that what she was trying to say was that ... she wanted him back.
"Do you really want that?" I had to ask.
"Why?" she looked kind of puzzled at my question.
"Because it seems like you were not really that into him until AFTER you broke up. Could it be that you want him back because he broke up with you, but not because he is really the "guy" for you?" I asked her.
"Hmm... maybe you are right" she responded.
The reason why I bring up this brief part of the conversation that we had that day, is because a lot of women do the same thing as Michelle. They get dumped and suddenly, they want the guy back.
But, if they were to go back in time right before they were dumped and they were honest with themselves, they were thinking about ending the relationship.
The reason why they are wanting him back is because they feel like they should have been the ones to end the relationship, not him.
If that is the way that you feel, then maybe you should just be thankful that it is over, even if he was the one who ended things